Relax, the Interpretation isn’t What You Think
I recently had a dream submitted for analysis that was simple and straight-forward: Why did I have a “dirty” dream about my husband’s boss? I don’t find him even the least bit attractive!
Most of the time, dreams – and thereby the dream’s interpretation – can go one of several ways. The reason for this is the fact that our brains (the director of all of our dreams) are the most impossibly complex things in the world. Trying to understand how a brain works is almost impossible. It’s difficult enough when we’re trying to interpret or analyze our own dreams and our own minds – but when it comes to analyzing someone else’s…. it can seem like an overwhelming task.
All I try to do is lead the dreamer in the direction I think his or her dream is headed and explain to them what their particular type of dream usually means. Many times, as is the case with this particular type of dream, the analysis and dream meaning can be one of several things. When the dream has several possible meanings, I always give the dreamer each one and then they, in turn, interpret which one “fits” their particular situation.
When a dreamer has a dream such as the one our dreamer described as “dirty” about someone they are not attracted to – the dreamer is always delighted to know that the interpretation is not a sexual dream at all. I can almost hear the dreamer breathing a sigh of relief right now!
A dream about desire or sex simply points to something the dreamer wants or desires in her/his own life. Obviously what this something is can only be identified by the dreamer. I think the thing that most concerns this particular dreamer is the fact that the boss was involved. There’s one of two reasons for this, and neither one means she has a “thing” for him!
- What she desires or wants could be related to her husband’s job, and therefore related to the boss. She could want him to make more money, have more time at home, get a raise, etc.
- The boss and the husband’s job may have absolutely NOTHING to do with what the dreamer wants. It’s possible that the husband talked about the boss during the day of the dream and this, alone, gave him a starring role in her dream… disturbingly enough!
As I always try to tell people who have had troubling dreams – we often give them far too much weight. Very often we dream of someone or something simply because we recently spoke of or thought about them recently. The danger of paying too much attention to a disturbing dream is that we FURTHER think about them, inadvertently inviting them back into our “sleep time movies!”
In other words, make peace with a dream and put it behind you.
I dreamed about 4 nights ago that my husband and I were fighting so bad that I hit him in the head with a plate. We were yelling and yelling and he was so unreasonable and was saying such mean things that I felt like I had to just shut him up. I am not a violent person and actually don’t even fight with people that much. I argue with my husband sometimes but all marriages have that. But I never hit him with plates. Why would I be so violent in my dream? It is really troubling me. I can’t get the image of the plate and his cut head bleeding so much blood out of my mind. It makes me sick and I don’t know what to do. Is it a bad omen for something happening to one of us or to a big fight. As you can see I am really a wreck over this. Please help me.
First of all, rest assured that there is no omen involved. People often think that, but dreams can’t tell the future. They do, however, often indicate something that is currently going on or something that has gone on. A dream such as this one indicates that there is something “below the surface.” More times than not, if we dream about an open wound (or surgery, pulling teeth… that sort of thing) – our mind is trying to “dig” beneath the surface for something.
In this case, I would be willing to bet that you have been trying to get something across to your husband for a while – something that he either isn’t accepting or simply isn’t “catching.” It could be hints you’ve been dropping for a new sofa, something around the house that you want him to take care of, or something on a grander scale. It could even be a case of wanting him to listen to you or pay more attention to you.
The hit in the head with the plate was pretty much your subconscious mind’s way of saying, “Now I’ve got your attention!!!”
As far as dream symbolisms go, I think that the fact that “so much blood” came out of the wound indicates that you fully expect to be able to get through to him – in your heart you believe that you’ll get to the source of the problem. If, in your dream, you had hit him on the head and nothing had come out, I’d worry that you might be fighting a losing battle and that (down inside) you knew it.
Think about how this relates to your situation. I’d be willing to bet that a light bulb has already appeared!
Again, this is absolutely not an omen for anything. If, by coincidence, he cuts himself shaving or you have an argument about what movie to see Friday night – know this: The dream did not predict or cause either one. Dreams rely on what happened yesterday, not tomorrow.