The Analysis May Surprise You!
A recent dream submitted to me for interpretation:
What does it mean to dream of being so angry that you scream so loud it breaks glass? I had that dream two days ago. I was so angry with my girlfriend and parents in my dream that I screamed at all of them. I screamed so loud all of the windows in the house broke. Then I picked up a chair and threw it at the wall. My dad tried to talk to me but I wouldn’t listen. I ran out of the house, but I came back and just fussed more. The best I can figure out, in my dream I was angry at them for not telling me about something or another. I’m really not clear about why I was so mad. But I can’t get over how angry and filled with rage I was. I’m not like that in any way in real life. What did this dream mean? – DeAndre
It’s unsettling to dream about ourselves acting uncharacteristically, isn’t it? Truth be told, it can kind of freak us out. It reminds me of an e-mail I got from a vegetarian once. She literally threw up one morning because she awoke from a dream where she was eating a steak…. uncooked!
Your dream is a classic example of a “repression” dream. People who tend to “bite their tongue” a lot or “hold emotions in” are the ones who have these dreams the most.
More times than not the dreamer has recently had a situation in which he/she didn’t voice or express their feelings. Whether they were afraid of hurting someone’s feelings or afraid of rocking a boat, they swallowed their words.
In repression dreams, these words finally find their way out! What angers the dreamer, in the dream, may or may not have anything to do with what angered them in reality. Also, the people in the dream who “receive” your outburst aren’t necessarily the ones who angered you in real life, either. Only the dreamer will know for sure whether they’re innocent bystanders or not.
I hope your dreams will be far nicer right away, DeAndre – you seem like a super guy.
By the way, dreamers, I apologize for a recent issue you may have experienced with Dream Prophesy. It was totally out of my control, but everything’s peachy now. It was, excuse the pun, a bit of a nightmare. It’s all great now, though. ??
I got an e-mail recently from a woman who was “very, very frustrated” with a dream she had the night before. She said that she desperately wanted to remember the dream but could only remember a single fragment. Apparently she was new to the world of Dream Interpretation and Dream Analysis and had even (as I often suggest!) bought a Dream Journal!
Here’s what she had to say: I recently found your dream website and have been reading the articles. I think you’re right about dreams. We can learn alot about ourselves from what we dream. I have had 2 of my dreams analyzed by you and you were spot on each time. I bought a dream journal and started writing down my dreams. I do like you say and write them down as soon as I wake up. It’s a whole lot of fun!
However, last night I had a dream that I know was a very “busy” dream. I did a lot in it. But I can’t remember the dream. I am very, very frustrated because the dream didn’t stay with me. I’ve racked my brain trying to remember what happened but I can’t. I can only remember one thing: my family and I were in a city we once lived in in Indiana. What is someone supposed to do when their dream is lost like this? I usually remember all my dreams. Why is this one not coming to me? Thanks so much! – Carole
Below was my response: Carole, I feel your frustration! Even though I’m utterly fascinated with dreams (some might say obsessed), there are times when I can’t remember a dream either. You’re right – it’s very frustrating!
When you can’t remember a dream, below are a few tips that may help with the dream recall:
- First of all, try to determine your emotions in the dream. Were you excited, frantic, sad, frustrated, happy, or overwhelmed? Did you feel in control or out of control? Even if you can’t remember all of the details, if you can get in touch with the way the dream made you feel, you can still get a lot from the dream. This is where a Dream Journal comes in handy. If you have a string of days when you have to write down emotions like “overwhelmed” or “out of control,” you’ll get a great dream analysis from the emotions alone. Also, focusing on your emotions in the dream (and the emotions you felt when you first awoke from the dream) often helps you remember more about the dream. When you determine one of the emotions, ask yourself, “Why did I feel that way?” or “Who or what caused me to feel like this?”
- Think of colors in the dream. Not only can a dream’s colors help with the dream analysis, picturing the colors you saw in the dream can help you remember more about the dream. For example, if you were to remember the colors blue and yellow, you could then ask yourself, “Where were these colors?” You may remember that blue was on a particular house and yellow was a dress your mom wore. Usually, if you can remember where you saw the dream colors, you’ll remember more about the dream.
- Here’s a trick that helps a lot of people with their dream recall: Lie back down and assume the position! Lie comfortably in bed just as you would be while dreaming. If you normally use a fan when you sleep, turn it on. Free yourself of as many distractions as possible and simply lie there with your eyes closed, focusing on things you do remember from the dream. A word of warning, though: Don’t do this if you have cookies in the oven, someplace you have to be, or toddlers in the house. You just might drift off to sleep.
Finally, if you simply can’t remember anything else about the dream, write down what you do remember (even if it’s simply one word, like peaceful). Then move on. Tell yourself that if it were really, really important, you’d remember more of it. Just take from it what you can and move forward.
A word about this particular dream (returning to Indiana with family) – dreams in which we “go back” can have several meanings. For one, you could have been talking about old times recently – or you could have even seen a picture from this time. Many times that sets the stage for a dream to visit the past.
A second reason we dream about a past place is we miss something from the past. The same can be true about an ex, an old house, a place we once lived, etc. We may not have any love left for any of these things – but there may be one thing that we miss from that time. Perhaps an ex gave great neck rubs or we had great neighbors in a house we once lived in…. Focus on what you DO remember and think about the emotions you have surrounding this person, place or thing.
A third reason we have dreams that wander into the past is a very common one: We’re warning ourselves of past mistakes or past pains. It’s our mind’s way of saying, “Watch out!” A recent girl contacted me in the comments about dreams she was having about an ex. He had cheated on her and hurt her pretty badly. She’d seen him recently and had a couple of dreams about him. I believe her dreams about this heart-breaker were her brain’s way of saying, “Don’t you even think about going back there! This dude equals pain.”
If a dream about a place you once lived, there could have been pain or a personal mistake you made. Your dream could be trying to make peace with it once and for all.
Some would even say that the fact you can’t remember the dream indicates that you’ve done just that!
A Final Word About Dream Recall:
Remember what you can. Move on. If you keep a dream journal (which could simply mean writing them down in a notebook), write down what you do remember. If you can’t remember the dream, write down something like, “I can’t remember anything about this dream except….” If you’re frustrated, write that down. If you’re like, “Whatever, it’s not important,” write that down. When you keep a Dream Journal, you often begin to see a pattern. Perhaps on certain nights (when you’re more tired than usual), you’re less likely to remember dreams. Maybe certain medications, like allergy medicine, cause your dream recall to be foggy. This is why it’s important to really go into detail in your dream journal – writing down what medicine you took before bedtime, etc. Many people even write down what they ate!
In the end realize that sometimes our brain realizes when there isn’t anything of real value in a dream and it just lets it go.
Sometimes that’s exactly what we have to do.
Tip for Remembering Your Dreams
Keeping a dream journal actually trains your brain to remember dreams better. When you get into the practice of writing things down into your dream journal, your brain will soon realize that this is an important part of your life. It’ll become much better at remembering details that may have otherwise gotten away from you and been lost forever. Dream journals actually train your brain for better dream recall.
I guess a better question would be, “Can dreams come true?” The question to that one would be a cautious, “Yes.” I say cautious because they don’t come true BECAUSE we dreamed them. What’s more, they usually don’t play out the way we dreamed them.
I’ve told a lot of dreamers I’ve talked to lately that I’d try to explain everything to them about prophetic dreams or, simply put, when our dreams seem to come true.
Some people are, by nature, more intuitive than others. This means they are more “tuned into” or “dialed into” the world around them. Usually these people are also hyper, hyper sensitive. This doesn’t mean that they go around getting their feelings hurt all the time (though their feelings are easily hurt). It simply means that they FEEL things more strongly than other people. These are the people who cry easily when watching a sad movie or laugh uncontrollably when watching an old episode of The Andy Griffith Show. Often these people even get teary-eyed when an Olympian wins a gold medal – it’s as though they FEEL what the athlete is feeling.
These people are so intuitive to things and people around them that they can often perceive when trouble is brewing.
Here’s One Example:
A dreamer contacted me about a year ago about her sister’s car wreck. She was completely beside herself because she had dreamed that her sister was in a wreck – and three days later she WAS. The dreamer was extremely shaken, for obvious reasons. (The sister was treated in the hospital and released the next day.) I asked a few questions and learned that:
- The dreamer had always told her sister to slow down, because she drove too fast.
- The dreamer always suspected that her sister was guilty of texting when driving.
So, the dreamer worried a lot about her older sister. She was intuitive enough to know that her sister was, pretty much, a wreck waiting to happen. Her “prophetic dream” was really nothing more than her mind worrying as much while asleep as it did while awake!
I also learned that the dreamer felt guilty that she didn’t tell her sister about her dream. She told me that if her sister had died and she hadn’t told her about the dream, she would have kicked herself forever. I pointed out that as long as she’d warned her about her reckless driving, she’d more than done her part!
Intuitive people seem to “see” things coming. So much so that not listening to them seems kind of silly, doesn’t it?
Another thing that can lead to so-called Prophetic Dreams is just pure old snake-bitten worry.
Here’s An Example:
I remember a dreamer (a mother of four little boys under the age of 12, bless her heart!) once sending me one of the most heart-felt and emotionally charged e-mails I’ve ever gotten. She’d had a dream that something happened to one of her precious little boys. The grisly details and horror of the situation had left her (understandably) shaken. Our e-mails went back and forth a few times and it turns out that within one year:
- She had lost her job.
- An uncle had been diagnosed with cancer.
- A grandmother died.
- Her mother had a heart attack.
As I pointed out to her, her brain was pretty much taxed and wondering, “What next?!?!” In a worst case scenario type of reenactment, her brain played out the most horrific thing that could conceivably happen next. I think in a lot of ways our brains try to “brace” us for horrible things – especially when (like the mother of the 4 boys) we’ve been through so much. It’s as though the brain says, “Well, that, that, that, and that caught me off guard and nearly destroyed me… what horrible thing could possibly happen next?” For protective parents, 9 times out of 10 that scenario will involve our children or grandchildren.
No dream tells the future in the sense that it has some sort of mystical power. That simply does not exist. Can dreams seem to be prophetic? Of course. But it’s the situations and circumstances surrounding us that leads to the dreams and the more intuitive a person is, the more intense the dreams will be.
People who believe in mystical Prophetic Dreams almost always point to the “prophetic” dream that Abraham Lincoln had. He dreamed that he was killed. Given the fact that he was right in the middle of a major war and given the fact that many, many, many people (ignorantly) hated him, I’d say the dream made perfect sense! Of course he felt like people wanted to kill him… some did! I believe President Lincoln was one of the most intuitive people to have ever lived. He FELT the pain of slavery, even though he was not a slave. He FELT the pain of his fellow countrymen – from the North and the South. He FELT that many foolish people wanted him dead.
His dream makes perfect sense to me.
If you seem to have prophetic dreams, remember:
- You are, no doubt, very intuitive. This is a gift, not a curse. Being more tuned into the world around you than the average person is is a blessing in disguise. When you dream that a loved one has been hurt, ask yourself, “Did they do something recently that made me worry about them?” If it’s a child, this one will certainly be easy to answer – everything they do makes us worry! Ask yourself if you read, saw, or heard about someone else experiencing the type of thing in your dream. Many people will see a fight or death scene in a movie and “act it out” in different ways in dreams – sometimes weeks later.
- If life has been unkind to you lately, your mind is still trying to wrap itself around everything! The brain tries to process things even while we’re sleeping. It’ll act out really bizarre scenarios trying to make sense out of things that have happened.
- If you’ve experienced tragedies in your life – whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, or a broken relationship – know that your brain will “act out” in your dreams. It will probably involve people who had nothing to do with the tragedy or tragedies at all. Again, it’s the brain’s way of bracing for the worst. It’s like, “You weren’t braced for that… let me brace you for the absolute worst case scenario.”
One final example:
I, myself, once had a nightmare involving one of my daughters. Being a dreamologist, the first thing I did when I woke up was try to wrap my mind around the dream. It didn’t take long for me to remember that a few weeks before the dream, I’d seen her reach across a candle so closely that the sleeve of her gown nearly touched the fire. Being a mother, I of course, told her she could’ve caught on fire! As I was telling her how careful she needed to be, I listed other times when she’d barely escaped harm because she didn’t “pay enough attention to what was going on around her.”
All of this was fresh in my mind, apparently, because my brain played out a little movie, “What Will Happen if She Doesn’t Start Paying Attention!”
I hear from so many people about prophetic dreams and my heart goes out to them because, more times than not, they’re trying to protect someone they love. I just want to say that your dream does not mean they will get hurt. If they do something that worries you (such as the dreamer’s sister who drove too fast AND texted while driving or my own little live wire who never seemed to see past her own little nose!), calmly tell them that they’re worrying you and make them promise to be more careful. DO NOT tell small children or anyone who’s easily alarmed about a dream, though. The goal isn’t to scare the wits out of someone!
Always remember that dreams are just dreams, nothing more… nothing less. It’s your brain acting out scenes and situations while you’re sleeping. It’s not a crystal ball – there is no such thing.
Finally, some people who talk to me about these dreams and/or thoughts are often frustrated because other people don’t seem to believe them or they sort of make light of the situation. Not everyone understands what it’s like to be as intuitive as you are. Some people don’t understand that some people seemingly have a stronger connection to the world around them than they do. They’re more dialed in! Also, some people seem to have powerful connections between them – very special bonds. Parents and children, couples, and even siblings often have the bond. We are able to SEE potential for harm in someone’s life when we share a special bond with them. But the key word is potential.
Keep the sister who sped and texted in your mind. OF course there was potential for harm with her – she set the stage for it!
When disturbing dreams get you down or scare you speechless, take a deep breath. Remember all the dreams you’ve had that didn’t seem to come true at all. Think clearly and rationally and I know you’ll feel better right away. The more you worry and fret over a dream, the more likely you are to have similar dreams. This is why it’s VITAL to make peace with the dream and put it out of your mind as soon as possible.
Although this is a common type of dream, it’s one that few people really want to think about – let alone try to find the dream interpretation!
Have you ever dreamed that something bad happened, or was about to happen to someone you love, as you watched? A recent reader recently sent me a dream to analyze that involved her watching as her husband was robbed by someone dressed as Richard Nixon.
How amazing is that?!
Anyway, she said that she watched as her husband handed over all of his money to “President Nixon.” She wanted to help her husband, especially since at one point it looked as though he was about to be hit on the head with a bat, but she was frozen in place.
When analyzing dreams, I often go with my initial gut reaction and this time I felt 110 percent confident with it. After complimenting her brain on its creativity (!!!), I e-mailed her back something along these lines:
While we often dream about something happening to our loved ones as a reaction to being worried about them (even more than usual) – we often dream these types of dreams when we’re upset with them – even incredibly angry at them! This dream would be that type of dream. The fact that the husband was the only one in any sort of danger indicates that he alone is on the recieving end of negative feelings. The good news is that since he wasn’t actually harmed, the feelings weren’t terribly bad!
Something else that’s interesting is the symbolism of money. The fact that the husband had to give all of his money away, while the wife retained her own purse and possessions indicates that the negative feelings spring from a financial disagreement, difference of opinion, or even resentment.
The only thing that mystified me was the Richard Nixon mask. I kept wondering why him? I went over a few things in my mind, such as what he represented:
- Trickiness (“Tricky Dicky”)?
I simply e-mailed her my thoughts, ignoring our ex-Presidentfor the time-being. I got an e-mail back within a few hours. It was filled with exclamation marks, because she thought I’d nailed it.
Apparently, her husband had recently spent a great deal of money on purchase that she felt was frivolous. She explained how they’d argued, how she had wanted a kitchen hutch, how he had stormed off to sit and sulk in McDonald’s for 3 hours (I love this guy! – I pointed out how lucky she was that he drowned his anger in milkshakes as opposed to something else!).
Then, she said the magic words that solved my Nixon mystery – she said that on the day he’d gotten his bonus check, he called and said he’d be home a few hours late, that he had to “pick something up.” She thought the something was the kitchen hutch she’d been eyeing for months. SO, when McDonald’s Mike (not his real name) showed up with a golfer’s dream set in the pick-up rather than a wife’s dream, she was floored. She said she met him outside and lit into him. She told him that it all felt like a “dirty trick” – aha! That’s where the Richard Nixon mask came in! Tricky Dicky strikes again.
It reminds me of the time my oldest two daughters had a HUGE fight when they were younger. The oldest one told me the following day that she’d had a dream that her younger sister was attacked and eaten by a crocodile. I asked, “Awww, are you upset by the dream?” (I was ready to reassure her that it was just a dream, and that nothing like that would ever happen.) My speech wasn’t necessary, though, because when asked if she was upset by the dream, she just said, “No, not really.” Then she smiled and went outside to ride her bike!
What These Dreams are Trying to Tell You
I have had some really absurd dreams and would like some help in trying to figure them out. Some I have had for years and some just once. Some are violent and some are not. In some I am flying through the air. Then in some I have lost 1 tooth, but then they start falling out one at a time till they are gone.I actually feel pain and discomfort in my dreams also.
First of all, let’s talk about the flying dreams. You should know that most of us who study dreams are always impressed by people who dream of flying. It would be the same sort of respect a golf instructor would give to a golfer who hit a hole in one. It’s like, “You go, you!” Flying dreams aren’t that common and the feeling that usually accompanies such a dream is pretty cool.
One thing to ask yourself is this: How did you FEEL in the dream? As you were flying, were you…
- Uninhibited and free?
- Sad and lonely?
- Hurried and anxious?
Dreamologists are quick to automatically label flying dreams as signs that the dreamer seeks more freedom. It makes sense, right? Flight to many people represents freedom. However, in the dream world, that isn’t always the case.
How can you tell? Simply by asking yourself a few questions. The first one is the one we just looked at, “How did you FEEL during the dream?” Each dream analysis or dream interpretation is different, depending upon your answer.
- If you felt afraid, your flying represented your mind wanting very much to “escape” something that looms ahead of you. This could be a test, an evaluation, a dentist appointment, etc. Basically, your mind would LOVE to be able to escape the situation all together!
- If you felt apprehensive before or during the flight (for example, if you worried about being able to pull it off or about falling) – you are probably doubting yourself in some area of your life. You’re having reservations about something in particular. You just aren’t 100 percent “on board.” The dream may be a good warning for you to be sure you look before you even think about leaping.
- If you felt uninhibited and free in your dream, that’s a feeling that you are seeking in your daily life. You may feel overworked and stressed, either at home, school, or work. In this case, the traditional view of flying dreams holds true. You pretty much want to just get away from it all, even if it’s just for a few hours!
- If your main emotion during the dream was happiness, you’ve recently had a feeling of great elation and it carried over into your dream(s).
- If, in your dream, you felt sad and/or lonely, you’ve recently felt these emotions in your daily life. It’s a feeling you mind wants desperately to separate itself from and flying away from the sadness and unpleasant feelings is its way of saying, “Had enough. Bailing.”
- Many people have dreams of flying during times of stress and deadlines. It reminds me of the popular commercial, “Wanna Get Away?” (Also for flight!)
You may actually have more than one emotion that’d be applicable for the dream. Don’t worry about it, it simply means you have a lot going on and are living life out loud!
As for the dreams of losing teeth – that’s a classic type of dream that signals, as you might expect, loss. It’s not as dramatic or as extreme as the loss of a loved one.
Usually, when we dream of losing one or more teeth, we feel that we’ve lost a part of ourselves. Perhaps you’ve recently compromised in a relationship (as we all have to do from time to time) or friendship. I once corresponded with a woman who had a recurring dream about losing teeth. It turns out that she had an extremly generous and selfless nature. When anything needed to be done at work and no one wanted to do it, she’d step up and volunteer to be the one to stay late or come in early. When she and her husband went to the movies, she consistently allowed him to choose the movie. This sort of pattern defined her life – every single day.
Ultimately, this dreamer realized that she was losing a piece of herself along the way. Her independence and sense of self worth were sliding right away. Her dreams were alerting her to this fact. Without changing her generous nature, she did begin to start thinking of herself more.
The fact that you “feel” pain in your dreams simply indicates to me that you are very dialed into your dream world. That is, actually, a very good thing – although it may not always feel like it. This situation allows you to realize, right away, when something isn’t quite best for you.