How Anger Dreams Help Us Release Tension and Hostility
Have you ever had a dream that just left you feeling angry when you woke up?! Maybe you felt angry in the dream – or maybe something happened in the dream that left you feeling mad when you stepped out of the dream.
Anger dreams are actually pretty therapeutic. They allow the dreamer to…
- Release hostility they fell unable to express in their waking world.
- Release tension and even anxiety.
As I often point out in Dream Interpretations, one of the most beautiful things about dreams is the fact that they allow our brains to “wrap” themselves around ideas that may elude them when we’re completely conscious.
When we’re awake, a lot of things are going on – not just around us, but in our minds as well. There are situations (and often individuals) that we have trouble coping with when we’re in the middle of so much commotion.
However, when our subconscious mind takes over when we’re sleeping, it can try to sort out and process information.
The same holds true for EMOTIONS. When we’re fully awake, we may feel a great number of emotions – and often all at once. It’s hard, sometimes, to figure out which emotions are the “truest.” When we enter our dream world, our subconscious minds gets to work.
Our emotions (as well as “information”) play out in our dreams as mini movies as our brain sorts through everything.
Have you ever stopped to think about just how fascinating this all is?!!?
If there are people, events, or situations that leave us frustrated – and yet we feel completely helpless about the feeling – we’ll often have “anger dreams.” In our daily life, lashing out at a co-worker or confronting someone in our family might not be the wisest or coolest thing to do. Telling them that the way they chew with their mouth open could hurt their feelings after all!
But, seriously, how uncouth is that?
If we’re unable to react in our waking world, it’s as though at night the brain says… “Okay, NOW I’ll blow off some steam!”
Ironically, more times than not – after the initial anger – we wake up and realize that what we thought was a huge deal… one worthy of so much hostility!… isn’t really that big of a deal. We’re able to put things into perspective and even feel thankful that we didn’t lash out or overreact in the “real world.”
That drama is better off in dreams.
The Meaning Can Actually Go One of Several Ways….
Dreaming of a cemetery or graveyard (or of anything pertaining to a cemetery such as headstones or graves) can have several meanings.
For some people, cemetery dreams indicate that they either have (or have recently had) a fear of illness or a sense of impending doom – either relating to themselves or someone they love. If serious illness or any form of catastrophe has been kicking around your mind, the subconscious brain may go all in and manifest these thoughts in a cemetery-themed dream.
I guess you could say these types of dreams could be a reminder to pay careful attention to what you think about during the day!
Cemetery dreams can also symbolize the words death, dead, or dying in different… decidedly less fatal… ways. The following thoughts and comments can put the words death, dead, and dying in the subconscious mind:
- a”dying” relationship
- a “dead end” job
- being “dead in the water“
- saying “you’re killing me“
- anything that may have made you say or think, “this is going to be the death of me!“
- a pretty dramatic individual may even say something inside of them is dying.
It only takes a small thought or a single, mindless comment to produce a dream. The subconscious mind hangs on tightly to things it finds particularly interesting, then produces, casts, and directs mini-movies called dreams. More often than not, the “set location” for these mini movies have as much to do with the dream’s interpretation as the action, itself.
Some older dream dictionaries believed that cemetery dreams indicated the dreamer’s need for physical, emotional, or spiritual rest. In the past (as in long, long, long ago) cemeteries were viewed differently than they are today. We don’t associate peace, rest, and quietness with cemeteries today as much as they did in the past. Part of the reason may be the language used THEN compared to the language used NOW. A very common phrase regarding cemeteries in the past was “a final resting place.”
People also used to refer to death more as “at rest” or “at peace.” Therefore, cemeteries and graves were viewed as places of rest and peace. While this may still be true in some parts of the world – it isn’t as prevalent as it once was.
Having said all of that… if you dream of cemeteries or graves and you happen to view death as a “final rest,” you could possibly interpret your dream as your brain telling you that you need a rest.
As with most dreams, your own individual interpretation may be different from the next person’s. You have to ask yourself:
- What are my feelings about cemeteries?
- How did I feel immediately after awaking from this dream?
Your own thoughts and emotions will help direct you to your own personal analysis.
It’s worth noting, too, that if you recently lost a loved one or even heard of someone dying you hardly even knew – your mind could “process” this information by producing a graveyard or cemetery in your dream.
Dreamer Has a Rare Dream About Daydreaming
Okay, here’s a weird dream I hope you can interpret for me. I just know there is some important meaning behind it but I can’t figure it out. I dreamed that I was with my mom (who died suddenly 3 years ago). I miss her very much and dream about her a lot. In the dream we were in a plane. I am scared of planes and heights more than anything, so being in the plane made me very uneasy. As the plane began to start going down – crashing – my dream suddenly switched to me on the ground – daydreaming about the whole plane situation. I’ve never done that in my dreams before – “daydreaming” or imagining something. That would seem almost impossible, but it’s exactly what happened. Then, in the dream, I began “playing out” scenarios – like wondering what different people would say if they found out our plane had crashed, who would cry, who would miss me, etc. I even imagined that all my family would find it very ironic that I died doing something I feared so much. What does this weird dream mean? It has shaken me and unsettled me a great deal. Thank you. – T.B.
This type of dream is – in my experience – VERY rare, indeed. I’ve personally had kind of similar dreams a few times in my life and each time – like you – I wondered, “How is that even possible?!”
The mind is so incredibly complex that almost anything IS possible. The subconscious mind doesn’t have any “rules” it has to live by, so pretty much anything goes.
When reading over this particular dream, one thing stood out – this is what I call a “troubled” dream. The dream, itself, isn’t troubled (of course), but the dreamer is… or at least has been very recently.
The fact that your mother – who you lost a few years ago – was with you in the dream coupled with the fact that one of your greatest fears – flying – was taking place points to a fear surrounding illness, injury, or even death. You could have been EXTRA worried about a loved one recently or even fearful of your own well-being or health.
I believe this dream indicates that your fears are “in your mind” and that, deep down, you realize this.
This sort of insight can sometimes create complex dreams as your mind tries to sort everything out.
- You’re fearful for someone (or for yourself)
- You realize the fear is in your mind
Is it any wonder the subconscious mind has trouble making sense of it?!
We’ve all been there, though. We worry ourselves sick about something – the whole time knowing that we’re creating the drama.
Just more examples of just how COMPLEX the mind is.
I hope you’ll use your dream to help you let go of excessive worrying and release fear that you create in your own mind. Thanks for sharing your dream with us – what you think of as “weird,” the rest of us think of as “fascinating!”
Ask Yourself What the Number Represents to You
If you remember a particular number from a dream, rest assured that the number (itself) is important. In fact, it very well may be the most important thing about the dream. Think about it – each dream involves some type of number. For example, you may dream about 4 cats, 2 people, 1 cake, etc. But we don’t always place importance on the numbers, themselves.
Why? Most of the time, the number simply isn’t important to the dream’s meaning.
However, if you have a particular dream and, when retelling or reliving the details, you make a point of naming a certain number (such as a number of objects, a “head count,” a particular number of days….) – THEN the number is of importance.
In fact, it may be the most important thing about the dream.
A few examples:
- If you dream about the number 2, odds are the number has to do with a romantic relationship – one you either value, wish you had, are concerned about. or miss.
- If you dream about a particular number, it could stand for the number of children (or pets) you have.
- A number could also be the total of people in your immediate family – usually in your household.
- If you have a spouse and, say, 3 children, the number 4 could simply represent the total of people you care extra deeply about and worry the most about.
- The number 1 can have several meanings – it could mean everything from loneliness to a feeling of supreme confidence and cockiness! Only the dreamer can say for certain.
When you remember a particular number from your dream (that is to say the number “stands out” for whatever reason), the first thing you should do is ask yourself what the number REPRESENTS to you. Usually, the first thing that comes to mind is what the number truly represents to you.
After you have your source, look at the type of dream you had. Was it carefree, happy, peaceful, and fun or was it scary, chaotic, and unsettling?
Let’s say you realize that the number 3 represents the number of children you have. If your dream was chaotic and possibly even scary – this would indicate that you are (in some area) worried or concerned about these children. Possibly you had recently been thinking about the cost of college or the crime rate.
It could be that you were worried about them physically, spiritually, or emotionally. You could, also – of course – been worried about something happening to you…. wondering how they’d get along without you.
Finally, you could have been wondering if you you are doing all you could for them (after all, parents never think they’re actually doing enough!).
If the dream was unsettling, then it represents something unsettling in your thoughts during the hours leading up to the dream – not your overall thoughts. It could have simply been one fleeting thought you had during the day that simply showed up in the dream.
If the dream was carefree and fun, it was simply your subconscious mind celebrating a great day or “acting out” pleasant thoughts.
On my self help blog, I always talk about the importance of having a positive attitude. I frequently write about how vital it is to welcome and entertain only positive thoughts (as much as possible, that is). Your dreams are simply another reason why keeping an upbeat attitude is important. If your mind is troubled during the day, more times than not, your dreams will be troubled at night.
Try to remember that when your alone with your thoughts – they’ll probably revisit you in one way or another.
For more information about what numbers mean in dreams, including interpretations for specific numbers, please see Numbers in Dreams.
Color Coded Fun for Dream Interpretation
Below is a fun dreams infographic that color codes dream subjects and the corresponding emotions that may be tied with them. Enjoy!
When Your Dream is Trying to Tell You Something Important
I recently had a dream submitted that involved a very interesting dream symbol: Closed Signs. The dreamer pointed out that they are a recent college graduate who (like a LOT of young people) is struggling a little in their career.
Below is an excerpt from the dream:
2 nights ago i had a dream, i was with my friend in a condo and we were about to leave and i said to the other person in the same room that i will just bring my friend home and we walked towards to the elevator and we found out that the elevator is not working on that floor so we decided that to maybe go down to another floor to ride the elevator.so we did, we used the stairs and when we
reached another floor down there’s a sign on the door and it says “CLOSED” then, we went down again until we can enter a opened door. But as we go down again, We saw the “CLOSED” sign again and another floor down “CLOSED” sign was there again and then on the 4th floor down there i saw no more “CLOSED” sign and we entered then i woke up after that.
What a frustrating dream! This is one of those instances where the description of the dream (frustrating) sums up feelings the dreamer has recently experienced. It’s as though the subconscious mind uses the emotions of the conscious mind to “set the theme” for dreams. It picks up on the frustration and more or less runs with it – up elevators, down halls, up stairs, down stairs..
However, I think there might be a little more to it. While it’s clear why your mind created such a frustrating scenario in your dream, I believe it was – in the process – providing you with a little advice.
Before I get to what I personally think this advice was, I just want to reiterate something I frequently say on Dream Prophesy: Our subconscious mind is one of our greatest allies in life. It has access to all of our struggles, our strengths, our weaknesses, our problems – everything that is US and everything that is OUR WORLD. The subconscious mind knows everything our conscious mind does – but it has a “superpower,” if you will.
It doesn’t get in its own way!
That’s why it is so vital to interpret our dreams (or to have someone do it for you, of course). Our dreams are basically our subconscious mind painting a picture for us and, many times (if not most of the time), we can find valuable clues and priceless advice within the picture it paints.
In this particular dream, I believe the dreamer’s subconscious mind is saying, “Keep looking for the answer…” Furthermore, because of the nature of the dream, I believe the subconscious mind is also saying, “Look places you haven’t yet looked.”
We can EVEN go a little deeper. Because there were “levels” in the dream – clearly indicated by stairs and elevators – I believe the subconscious mind is encouraging the dreamer to “look up” and possibly even to “aim higher.” Why? Because all of the “downs” were closed!
When a dream presents us with clear options (up… down or hot… cold, etc), many times the clue to the dream’s interpretation is in the choice that was successful in the dream OR, by process of elimination, the choice that was unsuccessful in the dream.
Obviously, when you have a dream like this, it doesn’t mean to march into work on Monday morning and demand a raise. I’m pretty sure telling your boss, “But my dream said aim higher!” won’t win you the title employee of the month! However, a dream like this can serve as motivation and inspiration to aim higher, look up, and keep on keeping on.
The key dream analysis here is to look UP, aim HIGHER, and… whatever you do… don’t “lower” your expectations or get DOWN… because there isn’t anything for you there… it’s all CLOSED!
Thanks so much for submitting your dream – when dreamers do so, inevitably other dreamers are helped by their interpretation.
This Dream Interpretation Differs from Most “Lost Dreams”
We’ve looked at “Lost Dreams” before on Dream Prophesy (Lost Key dreams, for example). People frequently dream about being lost or about having lost an object or objects. Generally, when the object is something like a book, keys, or other “impersonal inanimate object,” the dream interpretation (analysis, meaning…) is pretty basic. More times than not, the dreamer is afraid of losing something in their “real world” and a scenario of losing is thereby played out in their “dream world.”
Naturally the thing they’re afraid of losing isn’t actually the book, keys, or object that’s lost in the dream. The same object (or person) COULD show up in the role, but it’s very rare.
However, when it comes to dreaming about losing your glasses (or contact lenses), the dream interpretation goes deeper. Of course, we’re talking about vision-correcting glasses, not sunglasses, drinking glasses, or other types of glasses. All of these would fall under the previous category of impersonal inanimate objects.
Eyeglasses (also: contact lenses) are one of the most personal possessions an individual can have. For those who wear vision correcting lenses, they’re the difference between sitting in a room with no windows to the outside world and sitting in a room filled with windows.
In many ways, our eyeglasses are our windows to the world and we rely and depend upon them more than anyone could imagine.
When you consider their importance and think about their vital role in the wearer’s quality of life, you can better understand WHY dreaming about losing your glasses is an intensely deep dream.
Basically, if you dream that your glasses (or, again, contact lenses) are lost or missing, it means that you are experiencing great amounts of either helplessness or self doubt in your real life – maybe even more than you realize.
Here are a few examples:
- “James” begins a new job as principal at a local middle school. Though he has the required schooling for the job, deep down he has a couple of doubts. He fears that, maybe, he isn’t experienced enough for the job. The self doubt leads to a dream where he has lost his glasses and can’t find them. He looks all around his house as well as the school. In the dream, teachers (and even a few students) tell him that he should keep up with his glasses. One student even asks, “What were you thinking?!” He awakens nearly in a panic because the dream seems so real. The rebuttal from the teachers and students is the self-rebuttal that he, himself, feels…. even down to the, “What were you thinking,” something he has probably asked himself.
- “Dottie” has been married for 45 years to “Thomas.” Sadly, Thomas has been diagnosed with diabetes and the doctors are having a horrible time regulating his sugar levels. She’s devoting most of her days trying to help her husband eat right, stay on top of his medications, and exercise – all while trying to “ride out” his unpredictable moods. Because she is so busy thinking about her husband, she doesn’t fully realize just how helpless and overwhelmed she actually feels. One night, however, she has a dream that her glasses have disappeared and everything around her is nothing more than a blur. She can’t make out her husband or children’s faces, can’t see the flowers in her flower garden, and can’t see to cook. She frantically searches for her glasses but they’re nowhere in her home. As soon as she wakes up, she reaches over to the table beside her bed to make sure her glasses are there. The dream leaves her shaken – even more shaken than she believes a dream could have the power to do.
In both instances, the dreams, themselves, aren’t what left the dreamers so shaken or panicked – it was the emotions revealed through the dream. The dreams simply pulled back a veil that let each dreamer see how fragile and raw their emotions were at this time.
I always point out that dreams (or, more to the point, their meanings and interpretations) can be VERY helpful to us. These cases are perfect examples because each individual – after their dream interpretations – realized they needed to make a few changes. “James” began telling himself that he was getting the best kind of “experience” available.. on the job experience. He also began to focus on the fact that he was hired over every other applicant – and if they put that kind of trust in him, he should put it in himself.
“Dottie” began taking more time to unwind. She found solace in reading novels in her backyard – surrounded by her 3 beautiful Dalmatians.
These are classic examples of ways our dreams can lead to better self understanding and, oftentimes, even a better life.
Sometimes, Nothing is As it Seems
Dreams don’t always make sense, do they? Sometimes you’ll dream of hurting someone you love or you’ll dream of loving someone you’d kind of like to punch.
If you’ve ever had these disturbing dreams, maybe it’ll help you to know that you’re not alone. I hear from a lot of dreamers throughout the week and many are troubled by just these types of conflicting dreams.
I always feel bad for anyone who has been kind of turned inside out by a dream because, really, there isn’t a lot you can do about it. It simply takes the mind a little time to recover from especially unsettling dreams. I’ve heard instances of people taking months to get some dreams out of their systems, but the norm is closer to about a week.
One of the most disturbing types of dreams I hear about are those that involve the dreamer harming someone they love. Someone who.. in REAL life… they wouldn’t hurt for anything. The most unsettling dreams I ever heard was from a mother who dreamed of hurting her little boy. Her agony came through in her e-mail and I spent over an hour replying because I wanted so desperately to help ease her mind.
In dreams of this nature, the dream interpretation is almost always the same: If a dreamer dreams of hurting someone they love, they feel (in their subconscious) that something they are doing – or not doing – could actually bring harm to this person. I’ve had instances with dreamers where this particular “thing” was smoking (harming them with secondhand smoke), not enforcing seat belt usage, etc. Some parents even experience dreams like this when they take their children to school for the first time!
Many times dreamers will dream of harming someone they love because they have a secret they fear will be exposed.
Finally, we sometimes take on the “guilt” of hurting them when we don’t deserve any whatsoever. A dreamer may dream that they harm someone they love simply because they question whether or not they’re doing all they can to protect their loved one from harm. This was the case with a father who dreamed of hitting his son relentless in his dream. It turned out that the son had just gotten his driver’s license and the father wasn’t convinced he’d prepared him ENOUGH to drive safely. Through reasoning that could only come from a parent, he was prepared to take on the guilt if anything ever DID happen to his son.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve read words such as, “I was so angry in my dream! Why was I so angry?!” The anger simply represents intense emotion – sometimes even intense love. When we love someone, the thought of them being hurt causes us intense emotions, so the fact that they’re represented in dreams by one of the most intense emotions we possess (anger) isn’t really surprising.
The flip side of this dream is nearly as disturbing to dreamers: When they dream of being in love with and/or affectionate with someone they “hate.” I’ve gotten a lot of dream interpretation requests and questions along the lines of, “Why did I dream that I was kissing my ex-boyfriend?! I HATE him so much!”
Some will go so far as to say, “Please tell me I don’t still have feelings for the creep!”
Again, these intense emotions and actions in dreams simply stand for intense feelings in real life. I honestly have no idea why the sleeping mind won’t allow someone to simply give their ex-boyfriend a slap in the face in the dream (it’d be infinitely more satisfying, right?). Somehow, our sleeping mind simply sees the need to symbolize “intense emotion” and pulls one from its file.
It isn’t always accurate, that’s for sure.
When you have emotionally conflicting dreams like these, remind yourself that, as far as the sleeping mind is concerned, emotions are emotions. In these instances, think of your “dream brain” as a librarian trying to pull a book off the shelf in the dark. She knows she’s in the “Fiction” section but doesn’t know if she’s pulling an old Agatha Christie mystery or a Stephen King novel off the shelf .
Just as there’s a world of difference between these two authors, sometimes there’s a world of difference between your dream emotions and your real emotions. Needless to say, the latter are the only ones you really need to worry about.
How You Can Use These Dreams to Keep Your Resolutions!
If you’re anything like me, you’re “all about” New Year’s Resolutions. I love them to distraction and I always have. Making a fresh new set of resolutions is such a traditional process for me that I’d never dream of breaking my streak.
I think it’s safe to say that most people either make New Year’s Resolutions or at least THINK about them in one way or another each January. I’ve noticed a trend with dreams around this time of year. Resolutions actually play out in dreams in several different ways. Best of all, realizing why and how they’re affecting your dreams can actually help you keep your resolutions.
Below are the main ways resolutions show up in our dreams (with examples!):
- Annie had a “frustrating” dream that stayed with her for days. Although she was actually bank teller, in her dream – she worked in a library. She said that as soon as she put a book on the correct shelf, it’d turn up somewhere else. She’d take the time to put all of the books exactly where they were “supposed” to go, but someone would always be unable to find the book they were looking for and when she went back to the shelf to get the book for them, it would be gone. She said the dream left her feeling “frustrated and helpless” and feeling like she was “letting everyone down.” Because the dream was around the first of February, I saw a correlation between potential resolutions and wayward books. I told her that the books represented at least one resolution that she’d probably made. The fact that she felt frustrated and helpless in the dream indicated that she lacked confidence in being able to keep at least one of her resolutions. Also, the fact that she felt that she was letting people down in her dream suggested that she was afraid of letting people down if she were unable to keep her resolution. She replied that she’d made a resolution to lose weight but that it had been the same resolution she’d made for at least 6 years in a row and had not been able to keep it yet.
- Jack began having a series of dreams in January that had similar themes. Although the situations in each dream were different, the gist of each dream was indecisiveness. Irregardless of what was going on in his dream, his dream self couldn’t make a single decision. In one dream, he couldn’t decide which top to wear to work and ended up being an hour late. In another, he was in a restaurant and couldn’t decide what to order and the server got angry. The third dream involved indecision in choosing a cell phone – and leaving the store without one because he couldn’t decide. Because each dream had its own consequence, they stemmed from the fact that he wasn’t fully committed to one of his resolutions. It turns out that, sure enough, he wasn’t 100 percent behind his resolution to give up eating meat. His indecisiveness was manifesting itself in his dreams. When he realized that he wasn’t really feeling this particular resolution, he changed it to simply cutting back on red meat and the frustrating dreams went away.
- Not all resolutions dreams are negative. In fact, many people are so inspired by their own resolutions (or, more to the point, by the promises they bring) that they dream about positive results that the resolutions will bring about. Someone who resolves to lose weight may dream of fitting into a smaller size. Someone who vows to control their anger may dream of being level-headed and calm (even in a trying situation). By providing a “taste of things to come,” dreams of this nature inspire the dreamer to stay on track!
Whether your dreams follow under one of the three categories above or branch off into their own category, spend a little time with the dream and try to discover what it’s trying to tell you. Is your subconscious mind inspiring you to stay on track because the goal is worth the struggle? Is your subconscious telling you that you need to find ways to build confidence if you’re going to be successful? Or, maybe, your dream is suggesting that your heart really isn’t even in it and that one of your resolutions should be scratched out altogether???
Only you can say for certain, but make no mistake about it – your dreams are trying to tell you something!