Writing by Joi on Tuesday, 27 of November , 2007 at 7:30 pm
Have you ever noticed that holidays can play tricks with your dreams? Because of the emphasis on family, a lot of dreams will focus on family members. Especially family members who have passed away. It’s as though our mind wants to bring them back to us for a visit - and dreams give it a perfect opportunity.
I recently heard from a woman, Claire, who said she had been dreaming of her son often the past 4 weeks. Sadly her son passed away 3 years ago (at the unbelievably young age of 18). Normally, when I hear from people who are dreaming about loved ones they’ve lost, they all want to know one thing, “How can I make the dreams stop - they’re breaking my heart?!!!”
So, I was completely taken by surprise when the grieving mother asked, “Is there any way I can make the dreams come every night?” She said the dreams were “sweet little visits” - and that she always woke up with a smile because she was thinking about her beloved son.
We could, of course, debate all day about how frequently you should “invite” prayers of lost loved ones. However, after reading about 4 e-mails from her, I honestly believe the dreams are helping her to heal. The nature of the dreams revolve around “Adam” helping his mom in some capacity. In every dream, he is either helping her shop, cook, wash the car, or (0nce) clean the attic.
The symbolism is precious - I believe her conscience knows that if “Adam” could do one thing right now it would be to help his mother. So, he is.
I think these prayers offer a fresh way to look at dreaming of loved ones who are no longer living with us. Instead of thinking of them as heartbreaking because they make us think of what we’ve lost…we should think of them as heartlifting because they make us think of what we had.
It’s no secret, the holidays will bring frequent dreams of this nature. Don’t let them unsettle you - use them as a means of healing. Embrace every opportunity to think good thoughts of your loved ones.
Sweet dreams,
Joi
Category: Dream Prophesy, Dream Symbols
Writing by Joi on Monday, 12 of November , 2007 at 8:52 pm
I hope you can help me - I’m beginning to even lose sleep. I started having nightmares about a week ago. My mom is not a very good driver. She doesn’t pay attention to anything around her, she lets the gas run way too low, and she has road rage. I rode to the store with her recently and couldn’t believe how much worse of a driver she has gotten.
When she talks, she turns to look at you, she drives too fast, she messes with the air vents - she just does everything wrong behind the wheel. So, it made me start worrying about when she drives with no one with her. I just read over my e-mail and I bet you think mom is in her 80s. It might surprise you to know she is only 49! She just doesn’t pay attention. I asked dad about it and he said she has always drove like that but that I never noticed before because I was too busy listening to music or talking on my cellphone, or something like that.
We both agree that we are going to talk to her - but we don’t want to make her mad. When gets mad, she doesn’t talk to whoever she is mad at for days.
Anyway, my dreams. They’re all about my mother being in a car wreck. I’m afraid that they’re trying to warn me about the future. A friend has nearly convinced me that they’re prophetic dreams and I’m getting really, really scared.
Could you please help us?
Wow, I can really “hear” the worry and fear behind your words. I’m so sorry that you’re feeling so scared and worried. First of all, let me assure you that there is nothing mystical about your dreams. Dreams are generally a result of situations that are going on in our day to day lives. You recently rode with your mom (Who sounds like a very colorful individual! If she were in a movie, she’d be one of the more interesting characters, wouldn’t she???), and as a result of her driving , you’re worried about her safety. That makes you a great daughter!
That worry has been, obviously, weighing on your mind. When all of the other worries and thoughts of the day drift off after you’ve fallen asleep - this one remains. Your mind takes the opportunity to focus all of its attention on it, blowing it way out of proportion.
Now having said that, I do believe that your subconcious mind is trying to pursuade you to talk to your mom. From what you’ve said, I assume that’s easier said than done though. I have a little advice for you, though. As a mother and wife, myself, I can tell you that when a son/daughter/husband is genuinely worried about you, it’s a very warm and positive feeling. However, if a spouse or child comes across as angry or disappointed, or if they seem to be ridiculing the mother - then, yes, that would hurt. THEN I’m certain you would get the cold shoulder for a few days, and that wouldn’t be good since your mom seems to have perfected the maneuver!
I would go to your mother and tell her about your worries. Tell her that you’re worried about her and be specific. Don’t just say, “You’re a lousy driver, mom!” Tell her the things she does that are dangerous and ask her to please be more careful from now on. I honestly have no idea how to address the road rage problem. You might need to do a little research on that one.
I hope you’ll talk to her asap. But remember, your dreams don’t mean something WILL happen, they mean the situations are right for something to POSSIBLY happen. In an instance of role reversal, when I first started driving, my mom frequently dreamed of me being in car wrecks. (I never was though!) Her mind just dwelled on what could happen now that her only child was motorized!
Good luck - and please let me know how it goes!
Sweet dreams,
Joi
Category: Dream Analysis, Dream Prophesy, Nightmares
