Dream Prophesy

i keep having dreams with my ex husbands new girlfriend in them there has been like 7 of then in a two week period of time i am so confused as to what this means can you please help me?

Dreams like the one you describe are very common. Our minds try to wrap themselves (so to speak) around new situations in an effort to make sense of them. This is never more true than when they hit as close to home as an ex lover, or present one for that matter.

It’s as though our mind is trying to process information in the way a computer does - trying to determine the answers to questions such as:

How do I feel about this?

Why did this happen?

What does he (or she) see in her (or him0?!

I wonder if he (or she) thinks about me?

When will I feel that way again?

Was there anything I could’ve done differently?

I wonder what she’s like.

What if…..

The mind tries to answer all of the questions off and on, throughout the week - and sometimes this will carry over into your dreams. It’s all perfectly, perfectly normal. It doesn’t mean you’re still in love with your ex, and it certainly doesn’t mean you wish the new girlfriend any harm. IF you had mentioned that the dreams were unusually violent, then it would have been a different story! But, fortunately for everyone involved -the dream are apparently pretty tame.

They’ll just go away all by themselves in a matter of time. If you want to hurry them along, try starting a great, exciting new book or watch some amazing movies….anything to fill your mind up with other thoughts - get it busy processing something else!

I don’t remember any of the details, but I was in a room with my sister and my mother. I wanted to say something to my sister, who has been deceased for 3 years, but I had the conscious of knowing that if I’d speak, she’d disappear, like in my other dreams, so I kept quiet, and she started talking to my mother, but I
don’t remember any of what’s said, even right after I woke up.

You can rest easy in knowing that the words they were speaking aren’t really important to your dream analysis. If they were, you’d recall them - so the important thing was that they were talking. Of even more significance, however, is that you wanted to speak but were afraid to because your sister would, somehow, disappear.

I feel that there’s something that you want very much to tell, or ask, someone. It’s very important to you, but you’re afraid of their reaction. You know they won’t literally disappear, but if their reaction isn’t what you want it to be - you fear you will lose something. This something could be respect, a friendship, love, a favor, a job, a scholarship - anything that is of importance to you. You feel that something is at stake if you speak.

You realize that you have to make a decision - you either have to unburden your mind by saying something or keep it inside. I feel that your dream is showing you how keeping it inside is taking its toll on you.

I feel I should mention, too, that there is a possibility that the someone you’re mind is referring to could be your sister. Things left unsaid are the most haunting when they were left unsaid to someone we’ve lost. However, when it’s matters of the heart, our loved one already knew how we felt - without us saying a thing. For example, I once heard from a dreamer who had been having similar dreams but they involved her father. He had been killed in a job-related accident a few months before. She was racked with guilt and remorse because she hadn’t literally said “I love you” to him for months. Her recurring nightmares were, understandably, tormenting her by making her face this regret and guilt at least three times a week.

I told her to read the question I was about to ask her and to write down her first response, the answer that first came to her mind. Then I asked her the following question: “If it had been you who’d been killed in an accident that day, and your father had lived - wouldyou want him to feel guilty for not saying the words I love you to you? Would you want him to spend the rest of his life hating himself for not saying three certain words.” Her written response was, “Of course not! I knew he loved me without him having to say it. My family isn’t one for verbalizing how we feel, we show it.” Apparently, she caught the meaning without me having to even point it out, because right after she wrote the above answer in the e-mail message, she dropped down a paragraph and wrote, “Oh my God! Thank you - I feel much better now. He knew I loved him just as I know he loved me.”

Like I told her, actions are much more important than words. You can tell when someone loves you by the way they act, by the look on their face, by their gestures, etc. These are all SO MUCH more important than the words…anyone can say words, not everyone can show love.

Like I said, the person you want to speak to may or may not be your sister, only you know for sure.

A part of this dream that I think is really sweet is the fact that your subconscious “permitted” your mom to see her daughter again. You could have “cast” any people in the roles in your dream. It could have, literally, been anyone that symbolized your situation - but your mind wanted to give your mom another chance to see your sister, while your mind tried to sort out your predicament. I think that’s profoundly sweet!

Thanks for sharing your dream - I’m certain someone else will be helped as a result. (That’s almost always the case!)

Best of luck - and remember, if it is your sister your mind is wrecking itself over - she knew, just as you know, how you felt. If it’s someone else, strongly consider saying what’s on your mind. You may not get any peace of mind until you do.